Set the record straight. I hate it when people lie to make them look good.

So it has come to my attention that Nate has been telling people very incorrect information concerning the reasons which led up to our divorce. The reason for him doing this is selfish, he doesn't want people to know the real reasons, as he wants people to like him (and possibly feel sorry for him). Well, in this kind of situation, everyone is going to feel sorry that it happened. It 's not a fun thing, nobody likes to go through it or to hear of it happening to others, so of course they are automatically going to feel sorry (for the most part). But I just wanted to set the record straight that his reason he has been giving, is NOT true. And I would hope all who knew Nate and me, and especially me, would know that to not be true. I never stopped loving him. Yes, having Elliot was and is a lot of work, children, especially babies, take up a lot of time. But I was expecting and hoping that we would be involved in all of that together. But I ended up having to do most of it myself. Nate has some medical issues, and suffers from some pretty bad depression (there are other things that are also contribute to his issue, but I won't go into detail here). He had been in such a bad funk and depression most of our marriage, he didn't and still doesn't like himself, things he's done, etc. That it was pretty much a marriage of 1 most the time. He was so stuck in his own depression and crap, that he ignored me and most people around him. There were also some behaviors that could get, well, not very pretty. It created a lot of toxic feelings between us at times. I decided to leave because even though I loved him SOOO much, he was not willing to do what it would take to get himself into a better place emotionally, mentally, spiritually, etc, in order for things to be better between us. I also knew that I deserved to be treated better than I was, to not be ignored, and I didn't want our son to grow up thinking that that kind of a relationship is normal or right. I didn't want him thinking that it was okay to behave and treat people that way. Because it is not. I still love Nate, and in some sense or form, always will. I tried everything I possibly could to help him and to help us, but relationships have to be 2 ways. Both people have to be working at it. One person cannot do everything. I am not completely innocent in what happened. Towards the end, I was so hurt, scared, frustrated, lonely, lost. I didn't know how or even if I could help him understand what Elliot and I needed, or what Nate himself needed for himself to be happy. And I said some things that I didn't mean, and I know were very hurtful to Nate. I will forever regret that part. I know leaving was the right thing to do. If I hadn't, Nate most likely would not have found the help he is now getting from doctors and medications, that we don't believe we would have been able to find if all this hadn't happened. I just wish it never had to get to this. And I wish and pray that Nate can do what he needs to do to be better all around. And I wish he would have the strength and guts to own up to his mistakes. That doesn't mean he has to tell every nasty, dark detail. No, somethings are better left unsaid, however, it is not right or fair to say what is not true. I just hope that people who know him and me can see through that lie and know that this was THE  HARDEST decision to make and the hardest experience to go through. I am just hurt that he would say he is making changes and wants to change and is really sorry for all that he did and all that happened, but when telling other people about why, he has to lie to make himself look better and me bad, instead of owning up to his own mistakes. I really am sorry for all that happened and that it eventually came to all this.